As part of being mom and dad, parents are made to be the one who will discipline their child. Discipline comes from home so parents should be aware of the ways on how they control their child. These disciplinary actions should suit the children in order to do the right thing.
Children are born to be curious. This curiosity is the reason why children are aberrant. And once they are restraint in the way they don’t like, they mostly disrespect their parents. So these are tips that parents should remember in regulating their children.
Ages 0 – 2
Babies are curious of the things that surround them. The best way to control them from dangerous and hazardous things, attract them for some activity and remove the things that assure their temptations.
A child who has been hitting, biting, or throwing food, for example, should be told why the behavior is unacceptable and taken to a designated timeout area wherein he can sit for a minute and be calm.
Parents should not smack, beat or slap a child of any age. Babies and toddlers are especially unlikely able to make any connection between their behavior and physical punishment, because they will only feel the pain of the hit. Parents should do their best in disciplining their children without disrespecting them or hitting them. Oral is the best way of doing it.
Ages 3 – 12
Children are more understanding in these ages. They are more on what their parents are saying. The often reason why children are committing mistakes are parents promises who made it broken. Parents should remember that in every word they said, children are not likely hesitating from them. They will believe in every words we say so let them discipline in this way. Tell them the consequences of their actions if they will commit mistakes.
Also, set rules and punishment for them. Children of these ages have a great fear of what the parents are saying, so parents should do the right actions, complimented by words, in order to control their child. While you become clear on what behaviors will be punished, don't forget to reward good behaviors. Don't misjudge the positive effect that your admiration can have — discipline is not just about punishment but also about distinguishing good activities
But parents should handle their power effectively. Children are likely want to be rebellious because of too much power parents want to achieve in disciplining them. Huge punishments may take away your supremacy as a parent. If you take away your son or daughter’s pleasure for a month or week, your child may not feel motivated to change behaviors because everything has already been taken away.
Ages 13 and up
The best way that parents should do is to talk to their children openly about the problems. Don’t forget to listen first before saying your agendas. Teenagers are like to be heard than they are the one who’s listening. And when talking to them, don’t use words that may hurt your teenies. They will be more rebellious if you disrespect them.
Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen EdD (Three Rivers Press, 2000) shows parents how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with adolescents. Learn to say sorry if they open about your being strict to them. Let them understand the actions that you are doing. By these, you may create good connection with your children. Tell them that you are one of their friends that they can talk to when they have problems.
Parents should also tell their adolescence the consequences of their actions. For example, hanging out overnight with friends or drinking alcohol has consequences. They maybe are addictive on what they often use or drink. Another is telling them advices on handling relationship and warning them about teenage pregnancy without offending them or feeling them that you expecting them to be like that. Always talk to them with smile. The parents that uses inspiring words are mostly have the families that far from common family uncertainty.